Wednesday, 2 October 2013

Off Topic: Good Manners Vs Flirtation

Saw the above meme doing the rounds on facebook this week, I have to agree. There is nothing more embarrassing than having good manners mistaken for flirtation. It's a subject that I've touched upon on this blog a couple of times before, but in my own life it seems that this one is an issue that isn't going to go away any time soon. I try to be a good person. I try to be polite. I try to listen to the other person's point of view, even if I don't agree with it. But that doesn't mean that I am trying to flirt with you. 

And, honestly, most of the people I encounter on a regular or semi-regular basis know this. Mostly, the people I know who mistake friendliness for flirtation do so because it gives them a bit of an ego boost, respond politely and take it in their stride.

So is there any cure for this affliction? Hmm, probably not, unless manners suddenly become fashionable, or if people who use manners in order to get something in return stop doing so. Or you know, if that meme really affects the minds and hearts of enough people. But I suspect it will soon just become forgotten, you know, like that other meme about ...


  1. I have never noticed or experienced anyone mistaking friendliness for flirting. However, I have known plenty of people who tried to flirt and mask it in friendliness saying, "oh, I thought I was just being friendly."

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    2. To some extent, I think that's because so many people don't really have a clue about their own intentions.

    3. Or people are not honest with themselves about their intentions?